What I Wish I Knew Before College: Tips from a Campus Therapist
I got my start as a therapist working in college counseling centers up and down the East Coast. During that time, I got a front-row seat to the mental health challenges students face and received training focused specifically on this stage of life. Starting college is exciting, but can also feel a little overwhelming. If you’re wondering how to handle all the changes ahead, you’re not alone. By the time you finish reading this, you’ll have practical, down-to-earth tips to help you manage stress, make friends, and thrive during your first year. Here are some of the biggest takeaways:
Routine is everything. When so much is new, creating familiarity helps you feel more in control. Try waking up at the same time each day, walking the same path to class, and eating in the dining hall around the same times. You’ll start to recognize faces and know what to expect. If you get bored, you can always switch it up, but in the beginning, having a routine is a comforting anchor.
Resist the urge to go home during your first semester. I like to think of getting used to college like jumping into a cold pool—you’re shocked at first, but after a minute or two, your body adjusts. Homesickness is normal, and when it hits, going home might seem like the perfect fix. But while it offers short-term relief, it can actually keep you stuck. Staying on campus helps you adapt and build your new life.
Connection beats perfection. It’s natural to compare your new college friends with your high school friends. Maybe your college friends don’t make you laugh the same way, or the vibe feels different. Remember, you have years of shared history with your high school friends, and that kind of comfort takes time to build. Be patient and give people a chance. Friendships often move quickly in college because you spend so much time together. Some people will stick around, while others are “starter friends” who help you along as you find your core group.
Take social media with a grain of salt. We all know social media isn’t the whole story, but it can be hard to remember, especially if you’re struggling and it looks like everyone else is thriving. You might even question if you made the right choice of school or worry you’re doing something wrong. Everyone moves at their own pace. Factors like club culture or Greek life can impact how quickly you make friends and find your place.
Get involved early and diversify your hobbies. In high school, getting into the right college often feels like the ultimate goal. It’s easy to burn out and want to just relax when you arrive. While future employers might not care if you joined the astronomy club, college is a great time to explore interests simply for personal growth. This not only helps you make friends but also builds resilience. When you face challenges, whether it be friend drama, rejection of any kind, or low grades, it helps to have multiple parts of your identity to support you. If you’ve only ever viewed yourself as someone who gets the best grades, and suddenly you’re not, having other roles (like club leader or friend) can ease the blow.
Sleep is not optional. You’ve probably heard the myth that you have to choose between sleep, social life, and grades—and can only have two at once. Sleep usually gets cut, but it’s essential for memory, focus, and managing emotions (among many other benefits). If you find yourself getting more upset or stressed over small things, check in with how much sleep you’ve had lately. Everyone probably doesn’t hate you, you might just need a nap.
If you notice you’re starting to struggle with your mental health, reach out early. If it’s not an emergency, you might have to wait a week or two before getting an appointment, so the sooner you ask for help, the better.
Starting college is a big transition. Building routines, staying connected, and taking care of your mental health can make all the difference in thriving during your first year. Remember, it’s okay to ask for support along the way. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or just want someone to talk to, don’t hesitate to schedule a free consultation. I’m here to help you navigate this new chapter with confidence. Reach out anytime. You don’t have to do it alone!
